The Superiority Complex
Am I Just Better? No. You're Not.
A superiority complex is a psychological characteristic where a person believes they are better than everybody else. These people have an inflated sense of self and believe they’re the finest specimens to ever walk the Earth. Ironically, these people usually live in their own world, motivated by their own act. As is often the case, these people usually have feelings of inferiority towards others, and veil their insecurity with a tough exterior. How can we recognise when a superiority complex is at play? How can we limit the negative elements of this in ourselves and others, and how can we take advantage of the few positive aspects at play?
The Bad
The arrogance and self-centredness of a superiority complex can sour our relationships. One-sided conversations aren’t a strong motivator for said conversation to continue longer than necessary. A back-and-forth conversation with listening, engaging, and questions is how a typical conversation is held and advanced. Those stuck in their own heads don’t often consider this.
When being stuck in their own heads, it’s easy to believe that everything you say, do, think, and feel is the best thing since sliced bread. You likely will be unresponsive and defensive regarding advice or criticism. In trying to hide insecurities with a superiority complex, you’ll remain rooted. Feedback, criticism, and mistakes are how we move forward and grow in life.
Finally, in clouding our true thoughts and feelings behind this shield, these harmful issues dig deeper into ourselves. It’s more productive to face this imbalance head-on. Ask yourself, why am I doing this? Once we see it, it becomes clear. We need to face ourselves.
For the negative aspects of a superiority complex, it’s not all bad news.
The Good
In all situations in life, it’s not all bad. Some small victories can be taken, with a strong addendum: It all has to occur in balance.
A level of confidence can be great for achieving our goals and exploring new situations. This can also allow us to embrace a healthy level of risk in our lives.
We can also have high standards that we seek to better. This again can lead to higher levels of achievement.
It’s said at the top of any business, sport, or field, that competitors have to possess a certain level of arrogance and superiority. This raw ruthlessness motivates and drives them to train and improve consistently. Even for those at the top of their field, the aim is balance. If you rise to the top of your field and look back, and you’ve forced everyone away with your self-centredness, is it truly a win?
Concluding Remarks
All this superiority has to occur in balance. Too much, and the bad shines through. The balance is the most important pursuit. If people are souring towards you, perhaps you’re putting it on too strong. Cultivate your self-awareness through journalling or therapy, and ensure you’re not too in your own head. Get out of that headspace sometimes, and take an interest in somebody else. You won’t regret it!
Next time you find yourself in your own head, ask yourself, “Am I staying grounded?”